I(27M) want to live in Hawaii. My wife(25F) doesn’t.

If you’re working all the time, taking a advantage of that unlimited overtime, and she’s home all the time alone with the baby, that luxury apartment in Hawaii is nothing more than a prison. She can’t leave when she wants, she can’t explore like she wants as she’s probably stuck to a pretty rigid nap and feeding schedule.

As much as I love my child, I’ve been there and it helped immensely to have family and friends around to help or take a “shift” every now and then. While I didn’t rely on my family, I did rely on willing friends and also hired a nanny to come 2-3 days a week for 4-5 hours so I could get some cleaning done, run errands, get to the gym or simply me time. You wife may not need that much time in a week but maybe that much time in a month.

Ask her how you can help, ask her what she needs from you to make this wonderful Hawaii experience wonderful for her too.

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