I [28F] think my fiancé [31M] has been cheating on me ever since his mother passed away.

Woah now. First off, don't question my self esteem. Because it's through the roof.

In no way am I telling her to "win him over", I knew some headass would have that to say. NO, what I said was, find out what is making him feel like he needs to go to her. (Possibly lack of communication or empathy which is easy to fix.) Find out why he's going to her, so that you can provide him with whatever he needs (if your already providing it, then decide if you can live with him being friends with his ex. If you can't, ultimatum is LAST RESORT. although an ultimatum based on cutting communication with a true friend who's close at heart is bound to end in trust issues or pent-up resentment. Allow friendship with clear cut boundaries would be my last resort.

My behavior might not have followed "girl code" to a T, but would you ignore someone who was your best friend for 4 years when they're texting you for comfort after they experience the death of a loved one and is just seeking closure? If so, maybe you're the cool girl with her nose in the air thinking she's the shit when she's really not. After all, this is an engaged couple here. Not a summer fling. Try to make it work, my gosh people like are the reason that divorce rates are astronomical these days.

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