I (28M) embarassed and betrayed my former boss (26F) at a company function.

Two things:

One: You need to learn to control your mouth when you drink. Kinda ironic for you to be saying Melissa has no filter. You're not a terrible human being. But you are a human being, which means you will fuck up from time to time. You just fucked up. The best thing you can do is learn from it an never let yourself fuck up in a similar fashion again. Here's the lesson for you: fuck the "bros" and the bro talk. You need to commit to never being a part of that again. You don't need to. It doesn't gain shit for you. It doesn't make you cool. It doesn't make people like you any better at all. As you found out, the BEST it gets you is a cheap laugh at someone else's expense. All it really does it hurt people. You included. You didn't just do damage to Melissa's reputation, you did damage to yours as well. Start rebuilding your reputation - starting right this minute - as the guy who doesn't do the "bro talk" and who doesn't ever speak inappropriately about other people. That act is for fools and losers.

Two: Melissa will hopefully learn from this that she damn well does need a filter. I work in a professional environment. Professional. It amazes me how many professionals out there don't act the part. Hint: it's really got nothing to do with wearing a suit and tie. It's how you carry yourself. Dignity for yourself, dignity for others. You just never ever ever ever say inappropriate stuff about the people you work with - not how shitty they are nor how sexy they are. She really does need to learn. It doesn't matter if you are her friend. I have friends where I work and I would NEVER tell any of them that my dick gets hard over some other co-worker. Jesus, that's the kind of shit that can totally ruin your reputation in the professional network.

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