29m/25f together for a year. She used to be a sex worker. How to cope?

I am really trying to be there when she needs. I need not hide that it takes a toll on me as well.

Some of the things she has told me are downright terrifying.

We tried counseling at one point. The problem is that we were both always so agitated after a session that we usually ended up having massive conflicts.

We quit that and found out that we feel more calm without going to such places. We learned some lessons though.

She realized that she has unresolved anger issues (she never ever was aggressive in her life before, so this is something new and scary for her).

And I realized that my idealistic approach oftenly does more harm than good.

I am really not sure if we should try again with counseling, as she (and me too) are a bit scared of it now.

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