Wow never thought I’d feel sympathy for straight guys but here I am.
It’s distressing seeing so many memes and threads like this. I understand this may be a lighthearted post but I see it too often to not feel compelled to say something.
I’m a gay man who grew up never being able to ask out a crush for fear of rejection, humiliation or physical assault. Sadly this is a reality of most gay men who grew up in the 90’s and before. Still is today for many.
My point is to say that personally, I’ve never called myself a coward or contemplated suicide...over a crush. Never had that luxury. My experience with love, lust and attraction was trying to be covert. Hiding. Pretending. You never think you’ll be happy and comfortable in this very straight world.
The journey of a gay man or woman is to dismantle the shame and accept ones self unconditionally. There’s an emphasis on loving yourself for you are and who you want to become. This really is no different than any persons journey. Gay or straight or in between. It’s not dependent on finding a girl, who probably has a whole other set of baggage that she wants you to fix by the way, to try and make you a better man or whatever other alpha bullshit you buy into.
That same propaganda has been hurting your self esteem, psyche and emotional development for decades. Let it go. Even though I’m gay, I don’t feel that I NEED a man at all. You do not NEED a girl. You don’t need to be jacked or ripped or whatever straight dudes call it. You don’t need to be stoic. You don’t need to tear yourself down and be depressed just because you didn’t talk to a girl you liked. There’s a hell of a lot more to life than being with a girl and living your life for solely to “get” one is if you’re collecting Pokémon. That’s just the easiest way out of dealing with your low confidence isn’t it? Have someone pleasant and who smells nice to mother you and make you feel worthy of existing? Give me a break buddy.
Also news flash: That girl is only into you in hopes you’ll fill the same void within her too. (No puns) It’s exhausting trying to fix people.
Focus on your career, your passions, hobbies, skill set, personality and character defects, financial health, physical appearance, friendships, self esteem, creativity, education, social life, business, charity work, school, etc.,
Once you’re living a life that you love, love won’t be the grand prize anymore. It will be the icing on top.