Hi, thanks for getting back to me.

Basically, I am married and have been for awhile. The relationship was crumbling, I tried to end it but failed. Feeling lonely, I went online to find a friend and met someone I really hit it off with. It's been a little over a month now. It progressed to sexting, skype, messaging every day all day. Sharing our deepest fears and getting to know things about each other no one else knows. We are absolutely nuts for each other and can't stop thinking about each other. After only a month! I've never felt like this before. And believe me I know how stupid and crazy it sounds.

It turned out he is also in a relationship-- and engaged. We talk to each other about our relationship problems. He admitted he never felt ready to get married and was pressured into proposing. After realizing his feelings for me he postponed the wedding (or so he says, of course. I have no way to verify this) but he is still together with her.

So, we both are aware that what we are doing is wrong and confusing but we are absolutely crazy about each other. The topic of ending it with our SOs and getting together is discussed frequently and we seem to be moving towards that, although we both agree we should take our time since it's only been a short while. He even offered to let me move into his house and support me while I job searched in his town (fucking crazy!!!) We have even talked about the possibility we are in love. We agree we should meet first before deciding anything but will not engage physically until we break things off with our SOs.

I would not do anything stupid like become completely dependent on him or give him any details about my life until more time has passed. We are trying not to be rash about this but it's hard. We want to be together very badly.

Today I realized one of the pictures he sent me had his full name in the background and upon googling, I now know lots about him-- fb, instagram, their wedding website (that one hurt), his fiancees name, where he works, everything. It freaked me out and made this seem super real and now im even more confused.

Anyway, that's the situation. I feel like I am addicted to him and the possibility of being with him is intoxicating. But this is all crazy! And other people are involved and we don't want to hurt them. But we can't shake the feeling that what we have is very very special and we can't just drop it.

I'm also scared that he's totally full of shit, of course, and that he has no intention of doing any of this or breaking it off with her. It's a very real possibility. But I also can't write off the fact that he could be very genuine about how he's feeling in the same way that I am. I care about him very deeply and really want to believe he feels the same.

I just feel very lost and I don't know what to do. I don't want to miss out on a chance to be happy but I'm so scared this is all wrong and will blow up my life. Thanks for listening and please feel free to share your thoughts.