(I've had friends and family members comment that she doesn't act like she respects me at all)

I found myself stuck on this. My BF is LL - and I CONSTANTLY find myself going "hmm, if the situation were reversed, would I be considered a cunt?" The answer is almost always a resounding "YES" yet he struts around like he's doing me some kind of a favor in this relationship and that I need to change myself for him...

Alright DB and (u/faque2) I'm doing it TONIGHT.

Just now after reading that bit, I was thinking to myself if I could imagine my father telling my mother he just wasn't "feeling it" after 3 months of doing nothing with her in some hypothetical situation. Then I remembered my father would have taken a punch to the groin before ever letting my mother feel unwanted. Because he actually gave a shit and respected her and wanted her to be happy.

Then it hit me. I'm going to pack his shit TONIGHT when I get off work and have a sheriffs deputy waiting to escort him off of my property, and I'm NEVER going to talk to him again. How I never associated denial of intimacy with an utter lack of respect is beyond me, but thanks again faque2, you really just made a logic circuit in my brain finally light up.

It's so clear now - LL's do NOT respect their partners, so many relationships make sense now...

I'm going to need 6 months of therapy now, but, I think it might be different this time! Thanks again Redditor person!