My apologies, I didn’t mean to equate unnatural with bad. What I meant was that I think you should try something different outside of straightening your hair. Hair-straightening is done by many people, and there’s nothing wrong with it, but some can pull it off more than others. I don’t think the style as you have it right now is doing anything for you, and thought I’d give you that pointer. About the insecurity comment: Dating, at first, is all about perception, so you’ve got to put your best foot forward, and even though the hair choice might not be driven by insecurity, I think women might perceive it as so. I’m not saying you’re insecure about it. I’m saying that perception is often reality.