I (30M) brought up our (27F) relationship status and I think I screwed up. Please talk some sense into me (long post).

So you've been dating a girl for five months and she is not seeing it as an exclusive relationship, and she is continuing to date at least one other guy on the side.

Asking her for clarification of the relationship status at this point is not a problem. It's been five months. That's a pretty long stretch of time. You didn't ruin anything by asking.

So you need to decide:

Are you OK with still seeing her non-exclusively? If yes, continue to do that until you get tired of it or you both decide to become exclusive. Try to win her over if you want to. You may be successful or you may not. Or just keep banging her and enjoying yourself and realize that it isn't exactly a love connection but something enjoyable to pass the time with. See who else is available to date.

If you aren't OK with her seeing other dudes now, ask her to commit to dating you exclusively. Say you don't want to go further if she is dating other people. And get ready for her to either commit to that or not. Sounds like she may choose the other dude. Or she may choose you. Or she may say she isn't ready to make that choice, and then you will have to decide whether to compromise or not. Seems pretty simple.

Whatever you do- do NOT beg. Do NOT pressure her. Do NOT argue or get shitty. Tell her calmly what you want, and where you want to go with your dating relationship. If she's not on board, then be ready to cut it off.

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