Yes this is pretty much true. We were woefully co-dependent and ended up resenting each other a lot for it. I am stubbornly loyal, and prone to emotional dependency. These are issues arising from having an unstable parent. I don't regret the past, it is the past and I am trying to be present at all times. I turned out pretty well all things considered. I've had struggles that have nearly defeated me and healed them/gotten past them. It's true that perhaps I got the opposite of what I sought, but I don't see fate being to blame as much as myelf. My well-being is purely my responsibility. Thank you for your replies, they have helped me to process things.