I (31f) discovered my bf (29M) may be using cp

It's a long, hard road to overcome someone wronging you. But I have seen other couples do it. Love is not enough to solve the problem, but it's enough to motivate the journey.

For me, what hurt the most was his dishonesty. Am I in love with the idea of mlp porn? No! But now that I know about it, now that he's been honest about what he's into, I'm learning to accept it. What he is doing differently now is being open and transparent. His life is my life now and he shares it openly. He is also communicating with me a lot differently than in the past. I have voiced my hurt over his actions (sexting, ugh), and he listens to me, soothes me, reassures me. In the past he would become defensive. I feel more comfortable being vulnerable with him now than I ever have. I don't trust him. But I have hope that in the future, I will. And the friendship, fun, and partnership we have always had is worth the fight. Like I can't even tell you, I love this man, I look in his eyes and I'm done.

Maybe we/he should go to therapy, that's a pretty good idea. I am in therapy myself.

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