In a lot of ways my husband's depression has been a blocker for us actively working on the issues in our marriage. He hasn't had much bandwidth to focus on anything other than his own well-being recently, which has left me feeling neglected, frustrated and overloaded. So instead of discussing with him productively, I sought escape elsewhere, which is pretty terrible considering how much he's struggling and needs support right now.

Reading the comments here and writing about it today already has me feeling pretty dispassionately about the coworker. I'm more aligned with why I behaved the way I did and how I want to move forward. Hence why I posted here. Thanks for your thoughts.