Well I am a 44 year old guy, and I can tell you that most men (myself included) are arrogant, self-absorbed, entitled assholes; especially if we are single with no kids to speak of. Women change all of that for the most part because it isn’t attractive to many of them and the ones who like that side of men, will eventually move on and break up with you for someone more macho. As for kids, having children forces men to grow up.

I have only ever had maybe 3 really good male friends in my lifetime - when I was a kid growing up. I never really got along with many people, and still don’t to this day. My problem is that I don’t try because I feel like I have nothing in common with anyone my age. A lot of that has to do with my upbringing. My parents kept me sheltered and I spent a lot of time alone growing up.

If I wasn’t married (on my second wife) with kids I would be a hermit because I have no friends outside the relationship and mutual interactions. I never learned how to interact with people and my personality is such that I can only handle so much interaction before my brain shuts off and I want to hide in a video game or book for a few hours at a time.

There are parts of me that wish I had some friends I could travel with and do things with. I work on it every so often, but negative interactions set me back to square one for some reason. I have a lot of trust issues with people and those don’t help my situation any. I am not famous by any stretch of the imagination, but I am excessively well off and, despite being married, I do get quite lonely quite a lot at times.

It’s tough being an adult.