Thanks I agree I was thoughtless and unreasonable to flip out at the time. But you misunderstand my question. I wasn’t reacting to him changing his mind. I was reacting to him not communicating that it changed, while pretending it was the same. Even if the intent isn’t malicious, it did intentionally mislead me into being more open and comfortable than I would have been had I known he wasn’t as invested.

But bigger question — why did you assume - I have that much contact or that I expect that? - Or that an LDR means we haven’t met? - Or that there’s any kind of friendship after the relationship ended?

None of this was in my post nor is it accurate, but gives me the feeling you know something more than I’ve shared online, such as know me personally or have found and stalking my different accounts, and pooling together different sources of information that isn’t related to this.