I [32M] have had several girlfriends and I keep getting tired of them. I feel like I’m not compatible with anyone. What should I do?

It sounds as though you struggle with an avoidant attachment style. Vitality and intimacy get “switched off” in relationships because you suppress emotion generally. It also sounds as though you try to “think” your emotions instead of feeling them. You’re right that this is about you, and not about your partners.

Do you notice how your post details your feelings about your girlfriend’s “one glaring weakness,” but doesn’t say anything else about her as a person? If you stop ruminating about this one flaw of hers, and you think about her as a full and complex human being, what do you imagine it’s like for her to be in a relationship with you?

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