34 [F4M] North Dallas TX - Open marriage wife seeks friends, date nights, and connection.

You didn't try to start conversation though, you judged and immediately clutched your pearls and said "think of the children!" You didn't give you're example, and ask how it could be good or right. You just assumed your anecdote, which you didn't even mention initially, was something that was the norm and then judged my choices as a consenting adult based on your one example.

The only reason I even mention my child is to ensure people are coming into a situation with an honest picture of who I am. Having a kid changes how one's schedule may work, for instance.

For conversation sake, I'm farely active in the poly community, where many families are living with multiple long term partners under one roof.

Their children have 3-4 financial, emotional, etc supports as opposed to the monogamous 2 parent system. These kids are well adjusted, doing great in school, and surrounded by love and support. It may not work for everyone, but the examples I see are fabulous.

Poly homes aren't like harems or sex dens. They're homes, and between consenting, happy adults that dote on their kids. They're full of trust, and honest communication. That's a good thing.

Maybe your friends parents weren't really poly, didn't make good choices, or something, and for that, I'm sorry. I'm not them though and to judge me as such is wrong.

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