I [34M] got a job offer in another city and my wife [34F] does not want to go

I don’t understand why you’re insistent on going back to the same job as before, you took a gamble by starting a business (one that didn’t work out, and I’m sure - as the child of biz owners - that stressed her right the hell out), why not gamble on a new career?

I should have add "changing careers" under things we've talked about but rejected. I love(d) my job and the reason I won't ever be able to make as much as my wife is because I'm a creative and I'm not interested in taking promotions to management regardless of theoretical pay increases. I should also be clear that 2/3 of what she currently makes is over 6 figures so we could theoretically both live on it but not if we ever want to own a place.

You said you’ll at best make 67% of her current income and she may not find a job on the old city at all, or if she does she would need to start over (something you won’t do?).

She'd need to start over in earning trust towards a promotion, like in any new job, not start over in a new career. She would CERTAINLY be able to find a job, it might take a few months and there is a better than fair chance that she'd have to take a pay cut because she just got a bump.

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