I (35f) caught SO (38m) doing exactly what he said he wasn’t doing, and he won’t admit any fault or apologize.

Not a good relationship. He's having to seek pleasure elsewhere. You could be the wrong person for him as well; perhaps too much of a prude, perhaps not. Then again, a majority of guys do the same thing, they just claim not to. You'll find someone else who's a better liar or just better at covering their tracks. But it will make you feel better and that is all that matters, right?

Finally, if doing this allows your mate to quench his thirst due to something lacking in the relationship, it seems like a better alternative than cheating with another person. Perhaps an honest non-confrontational conversation would be helpful? What is missing? Good luck.

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