I (35M) haven't had a date at all in around five years. No matter what I try, I just can't meet anyone. I'm tempted to just entirely give it up to spare myself the depression. Should I?

I don't know man, that doesn't ring true to me. If all you are getting is sparse convos on the dating apps, the only way I can see that being the case is if you are portraying yourself as unreal, like a bot or catfish. Did I believe that profile of a guy who went to Wharton Business school, had pictures hanging out with celebs and apparently modelled was real and wanted to meet me for coffee? Of course not. There is probably something off on your profile, how you are talking to the matches, or your target demographic. Model-esque college aged girls are unlikely to be very responsive, for example. Or even mid-20s might be tough at your age.

My suggestion is to show your female friends your profile and your messages, Or a sister might be even better if you have one, more likely to be honest because intimidating reads to me like they're sparing your feelings about something. I don't know many adult women in your age group who are turned off by the idea of an attractive, put together guys with a good job. There is something else there, especially because you're barely even getting the chance to convey how you possess those qualities. If you're really motivated, throw up a fake profile as a woman in your target age range just to see what other guys profiles look like. You may see something that is making you come off negatively.

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