3. 4.5 years later, he says he’s ‘not in love’ anymore

4.5 years later, he says he’s ‘not in love’ anymore

God, that's awful. I'm really sorry. Distance is so hard for people. We have so many technologies to keep in touch but our brains are still human. We still need that touch, that presence, that person in our life near us. It is a strong and independent couple that can enjoy long distance relationship for any longer than a few months. Even worse, you kicked things off in-person so you have no real framework for making things enjoyable together.

Don't beat yourself up about what you said, did, insinuated, etc. You're driving yourself nuts thinking that there was some magical pathway to reconciliation. The truth is, it was his decision. He made it the very moment he started having doubts and decided not to work on the issues instead of bailing.

Meet up with him, see how it goes...but of course get ready for bad news and start doing what YOU need to do for your OWN sanity and health. Work out. Spend time on hobbies. Hang with friends and family. Eat right. Get your shit done.

Ultimately we cannot DRAG people into our lives kicking and screaming. We can be forward, stand up for ourselves...but we maintain our dignity by not begging. You shouldn't have to beg for the attention of a person who truly loves you.

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