I [42F] watched my husband [35M] walk out on Friday for another woman wasting 16 years together.

I have been through similar, my wife left with the exact same brother and sister excuse. She had been having an affair and I had absolutely no idea anything was even wrong.

As others have said, force yourself to eat. I lost 3 stone by lack of eating, others I know of who have been through this had the same massive weight loss. You need to stay strong. Eat. Run, walk or soemthing to get out of the house. You probably really dont feel like it but make yourself!

You will no doubt find your house feels so empty and you feel alone. This is when I learnt who my friends were, I leant heavily on them for company at first. Then I took up hobbies. I am learning French, started watching some TV series boxsets etc.

It feels like shit right now, but hang in there. It gets easier. There will be highs and lows for sure.

Oh, this one will sound waaay out your mind right now, but dont get into any relationships too soon. I found mainly due to lonliness I was in a hurry to fill that void and meet someone after just a few months. Nothing wrong with taking things super slow but filling your husbands shoes is a bad way to start anything. Take time until you are quite comfortable alone in your own house and finding yourself happy again. I know it sounds like this is the furthest from your mind right now but keep it in mind in case you find yourself doing that.

Its the shittiest thing anyone who is meant to be your best friend and life partner can do to you. How someone you know so well and love can turn on you is just horrible. Overnight its like they gio from being your soulmate to your enemy. Complete mind fuck.

You aren't alone though. I posted a bit on surviving infidelity forums there are good articles etc there too which might help. One thing would say though is many seem to be holding out hope for some "fog" to lift. I dont buy into that. My wife and your husband both made a choice to screw over their best friend for a fantasy of something better. Best thing to do is work on making a happy life without them

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