46 y/o and never been asked on a date...

Well presented, perfectionist guys who seem to have it ll together, look like they wouldn't have a space you could fit into, so you don't try.

Disorganised, kind of messy people may seem more sincere. They may not be, in fact, their presentation is often the way it is because it gets them what they want - and if it does get them what they want, why would they change it? But at least at a glance, they seem like they are more open to you.

On the other side of their well presented facade, the super-organised person may be tearing himself up.

But even when you see that, it doesn't necessarily seem sexy to you. You feel you would not be up to his standard.

And sex is often, not a very organised thing. It's piggy and animal and messy. That seems at odd with a perfectionist image. Some guys maybe find it hard to see a guy who presents that way, as sexual.

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