Dont get married to someone you cant have difficult discussions and conversations with. A relationship that only works if times are good and problems are shallow is not going to work longterm.

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Call your exs husband, with your fiance by your side and relay what his wife has told you. Tell him you are about to get married and have this dumped on you and would like to know fact from fiction.

Wait and watch what happens.

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The ex who contacts you has made her bed. Time for her to lie back in it. YOU need to not ever have any conversations with her, that your future wife is not witness to or listens in on.

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Ps. Youre not the father of the kid. She has contacted you to be her emotional support despite you being married in the past. Now right before your wedding, she reaches out again. That doesnt take rocket science to see through imo. Deal with her as you would a hostile intruder. Tackle this before she can spin it in any other way to her husband. (If she really thought you were the father, she would have gotten a paternity test a long time ago, simply to keep you closer the way she wants. If a woman thinks her husband might not be the father of the kid, and she doesnt get it tested, she wants to keep it quiet, not go stirr up a storm that can come back and bite her in the ass.)