Opposite problem for me. Will be married for 10 years in March. My sex drive is way higher than my wife’s. She will almost never turn me down, unless she doesn’t feel well or had a bad day at work… but I have to initiate sex 99.5% of the time. She will readily admit that she almost never has “the urge” because sex just isn’t a driver for her.

We’re usually also once a week, but sometimes it’s 3x a week. I’d be happy consistently going every other day, but the fact that I know I have to be the one “making the move” kinda kills my motivation to go for it most of the time. Sometimes I’ll force myself to not make a move for like 2 weeks just so that she finally initiates it.