Early 30s, f, kids but not together. I have a high sex drive. He has none at all. We only had sex once before we got married. I should have noted that there may have been an issue then. I mention sex and the man literally makes crying noises. I feel rapey any time we do anything. I'm down for vanilla, but I'm very NOT vanilla and I'd love nothing more than for him to put his cock in my ass but that's never gonna happen. We've been friends for almost 20 years and I love him for his friendship but I'm bout to lose my sexually frustrated mind. We have been married for less than six months and are probably at about 12 times total having sex. It's awful. I mentioned the sex issue, he turned into an asshole. Complete opposite of who I married. Now hes just mean. He refuses to get help. Displays really juvenile behaviors. He got mad the other day because I told him he shouldn't be getting drunk at a bday party full of children and he cut his arm with a knife and then told me he was going to punish me by spending valentine's day with his friends instead if me. He would also spend my daughters birthday party with his friends because I didn't get him cake for his birthday and instead got cupcakes. Then, turns out he has a prescription drug problem I wasnt aware of and he got high as balls and wanted to take off in my car. I grabbed the keys and he proceeded to wrestle me for them. Not playing. Actually hurt me. I regret marrying him. I want a divorce. He has 3 children though and they have literally no stability. If I leave then they're fucked. So, I guess I'm thinking about finding someone under the radar to satisfy me and I'll raise those kids and when they're ready to head out ill get that divorce. So idk what u were wanting really as an answer, but I'm pretty sure it's not normally like this.