I have been through the exact same experience. I foudn it hilarious(ly depressing) when he woudl claim to be a sex addict, because we never had sex. He was aporn addict. It's an problem that has become well-documented, and is all the mre common, unfortunately.

During the worst of it, i woudl deliberately catch him in the act, to fuck with him. Even though it wasn't fun, and served no purpose, i was so miserable by that time, my self esteem was completely shot and I felt so trapped and powerless and thought my world had come to an end, it was the least i could do to make himmiserable. I woudl let the shower run wayafter getting out, and then turn it off at the last second before i came out of the baathroom to shock him so that he fell over trying to close his laptop and put his dick away. I would say i would text him on teh way home, but never did, only to walk on in with him and his dick out and shocked. Obviously this was very immature of me, and fruitless, but it was after many years of trying to talk, trying to make an effort, trying to resolve the issue in some adult and sensible way.

To make it all worse, i have a very high sex drive, and am very uninhibited and passionate in bed, albeit vanilla, so the lack of sex was a huge issue for me. It was also clear that he didn't love himself very much, and had guilt over the habit, and was very opposite to me in the way he had sex. (Like a rabbit, no eye contact, embarrassed afterwards which displayed as using baby talk to suggest watching a movie or something.)

He would accuse me of "having an issue with porn". I never did initially, but obviously through this experience i did start to resent it.

Very long story a little bit shorter: I left the relationship. There were other reasons i left, but this was a huge factor. He wasn't going to change for me, or while we were together, and i didn't want to have to "work" at something like sex, that was so important to me. His porn addiction already existed when we got together, and our honeymoon phase was onlyabout 3 months. I stayed with him for 7 years (!!!!!) because i have a hard time committing, and when i do, it is hard to detatch.

Now that we've been separated for 4 years. Every single sexual relationship i have had since then has been more satisfying than anything i ever had with him. I have found people without porn addictions to be much more honest, like themselves more, and have less shame and antagonism to the outside world. They use porn. They just prefer sex.

For a long while i was so hurt by the experience with my ex, i coudln't beleive that all men weren't going to be like him, now that porn is so freely available, and people can carry almost invisible devices with them full of it wherever they go. I was very pessimistic.

Sorry that was so long. I feel so empathic towards anyone i hear going through anything similar i feel compelled to share. Do with it what you will. My advice woudl be to leave him. I mean, it's not just th eporn addictin you have to deal with, but he is a cheating asshole to boot.

Best of luck:)