Advice for dealing with mother in law.

A general rule of thumb is you are both responsible for protecting each other from your own families. He needs to step in and tell mom she needs to behave herself. If he won’t do that, let him know he’ll be having a relationship with his mom separate from you.

My DH’s mom is verbally abusive and when he was a child, was physically abusive. He has always shielded me from her - we call it keeping her in her box. I do the same for him with my mom - a persistent space invader and generally miserable person. The kids have great relationships with all their grandparents, just via the respective parent. And we’ll do some holidays together but nothing extensive. It all works.

There is no reason you have to put up with this.

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