You could be right about how it needs to be a choice the child makes. And I will truly consider this.

However, your comment about the biofather... just no. He's too far gone. I made a former post about it in this thread, but he's been drinking so much at this time that he's currently in the hospital for malnourishment, additional complications due to severe alcoholism, and they believe he may have brain damage.

This man has done too much damage to himself and us to ever be considered a safe person to be around my son. Legally speaking, (consulted a lawyer) the worst case scenario is that he gets supervised visitation at a neutral location. Meaning, he'd need to drive 4 hours (we live in different cities) see my son for 1 hour while a social worker watches from behind a glass window.

It's just a lot.