My wife and I had pretty adventurous sexual histories before we met and later got married. Threesomes, DPs, group sex, etc...On both of our ends, we never tried to even tally these acts, or even how many partners we've had. That's something neither of us I really want to know, but I honestly would be Ok with knowing...She swears she doesn't want to know my "score". I know her's will be higher than mine, but I get not wanting to know that.

We told each other about our respective histories long before we got married. We find something new out every once in a while, but thats to be expected...A new kink, an old experience we had, or maybe a new thing we wanna try. It comes up. We are open and we do not judge each other for what the other has done or wants. You gotta have that line open.

I won't lie. I have gotten jealous, insecure and felt inadequate, because its human to feel like that. I might hear something I didn't like, or dont neccessarily want to know, but fuck it. I accept it for what it was and It was probably a lot of fun. I don't get bothered by the past...

Our marriage is currently closed, but we are open to being open in the future. We have zero issues doing crazier, kinkier things and getting more wild when it suits both of our desires. We have before...Probably will discuss and maybe do it again...

What she did was what she did...It was before you guys were official. It was technically fair game. Casually dating is one thing, but before that talk happens, you guys were nothing. ..

So basically I feel like its so what? You can feel whatever you want to feel. Its emotion. Its all natural. But, it happened. She told you, she didn't have to do that...Its a bitch to process truthfully, but youll get it figured. She doesn't have to feel remorseful at all about it. She didn't cheat. She just got hers. Its was fair game. Relax about it, calm down. How you will proceed will come to you. Good luck.