Ohh family. You got to love them.

My MOH is doing my bridal shower. I was admittedly slow in getting her a guest list, but that's b/c I was behind where I wanted to be on getting STDs out the door and getting address for that took precedence over securing email address for a shower. But I did give her a rough count by her requested deadline so she could start planning--she could have done everything except send the freaking evites. I get a call from mom; "Aunt said Cousin said you still haven't gotten her any info about your shower." "Aunt is wrong. I sent the guest count estimate three weeks ago (along with some explanation on my logic for who I thought might/might not come, so she had contingency guestimates too!). I'm still finalizing email addresses--if some don't provide them to me, it'll just mean fewer folks to invite, but Cousin got that contingency guestimate too." "ohh, well that's not what I heard yesterday. According to Aunt, Cousin is stressed b/c the Shower is in 3 months and she can't start planning anything yet." "I'll email Cousin again to make sure she has what she needs from me, but Aunt is wrong. I'd be happy to send you the email I have from Cousin confirming that the head count I gave her is workable if you don't believe me." "Of course I believe you. But I don't know why Aunt would tell me this if it wasn't true."

Sheesh! And, to top it all off, it's now been over a month since I send the final shower guest list, with email addresses to MOH and guess who still hasn't done anything about setting up the bridal shower? Yet I'm the one whose getting yelled at b/c "[my mom:] I don't want you to be disappointed if no one comes to the shower b/c they made summer plans before you invited them!" Grr. It probably doesn't help that all four of us, me, MOH, Aunt, and Mom live in four different states and my family is a terrible gossip mill. Not malicious, just once someone (thinks they) know something, everyone has that 'info.'

So, way more mild than folks thinking my wedding is cancelled, but I totally feel you. Sometimes I wish I could tell my mom, "Whoa, life is way too busy to be working (7 days a week), planning a wedding, juggling normal life responsibilities, AND dealing with your made up drama. I'm out!" But I love her and she really is awesome with her help 99% of the time...so, I deal. Family. :-)