We had a weird situation where my family gets along with his families, but his families don't get along with each other [mom & dad remarried]. What I did was I made a Google Photos album and a text group. Even during pregnancy, when J had an update, I did it via group text. "20+3 update! Anatomy scan went well. Baby is measuring 40% percentile, 155bpm heart rate. " Attached a picture of the ultrasound. No one could say that I was showing preference to either family, everyone was privy to the same information at the same time and equally included in my pregnancy. Now that she's here, I put her baby pictures and updates in her Google photos album. All family has a link to it, they're getting the same information and same updates at the same time. It helps family feel included from far away but without this "competitiveness" that maybe I talk to one of them but not as much to the other. Everyone gets near daily baby updates and if they want to visit, then come visit. The only reason why there's pictures of her with his dad's family and not pictures with his mom's is because his dad's family has visited. His mom's has not. When they come, there will be pictures of them too.