Advice on laboring alone?

I’m a FTM waiting to pop, so take what I say with a grain of salt and with the understanding that I have a healthy dose of paranoia about this process (lol). Ultimately, I think the MOST important factor in this decision, so if this peace and laboring alone will comfort you, then go for it. That said, I do think that there are some other factors to seriously consider. I don’t want to fear monger, but I’ve just heard so many stories about the issues of not having an advocate’s support in-room for any hospital procedure. Studies have shown that doctors and nurses tend to view patients (for any type of treatment) who have a friend or family member present much differently than patients who are alone, and it’s usually a subconscious/unintentional bias, but it’s something that often contributes to different care (things like slower response times if the patient feels something wrong, etc). Are you thinking you just want to be alone for the labor, and bring someone in for the actual birth? Do you know if your own doctor will be on call? Do you know anyone on your medical team at the hospital who would be able to advocate for you? Would you at least have family very nearby (e.g. in the waiting room) in the event you are incapacitated at any point during labor? Would you have a thorough birth plan submitted that accounts for all potential courses? All things to at least think about, but as I said- if your greatest feeling of comfort comes from solitude, then I think your decision is made- I’d just over-prepare.

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