Advice on a woman being difficult

Thanks, this confirms basically everything I've suspected. The issue I'm having is that I can't help but feel like I've "lost", and nobody wants to be a loser. I like her less and less as time goes on as I see through her act to her true intentions, but I still care. I'm still invested. I don't even think that walking through the door is as important to me as her opening it in the first place. It hits my ego, and it should, because it's silly to expect every girl to want to fuck me.

And you're right, I'm new to TRP and I'm not sure I've even swallowed it yet. I think I have, though. This girl and another girl I'm talking to right now have convinced me that this is how women are, analogous to men wanting sex (oversimplified, but you know what I mean). Here's the thing that fucks with me - I've been an orbiter many times before, for extended periods of time. I'd say I've ended up fucking a good percentage of those girls. Maybe not quite half of them, but a significant percentage. And once the sex happens, it usually won't end in a long term relationship (only happened maybe once or twice), but they will elevate me to FWB status. If it was just purely a quest for sex, I don't know if orbiting lots of girls would be the worst strategy, because you catch them on the rebound or feeling impulsive, give them the A fuck, and there you go. But it's not about sex, not strictly. Obviously I want to fuck her, but there's something emasculating about being an orbiter. It's like they're denying my sexuality, my manhood, pretending I'm an asexual or something. Fuck that. It's humiliating and emasculating to be "just friends" with a girl you want to fuck while she gives what you want to someone else. It's an unfair exchange. She gets friendship and validation, and what do I get? I don't get validation from friendship, and I don't need those things.

I think I'm going to go back to radio silence, and if she ever hits me up again, I'll take it from there. In the meantime, do you think you could give me some insight on this other girl I'm taking to, who is doing similar shit? I'm interacting with women in a fundamentally different way, and I do feel lost, because it's so different to me. I haven't developed the instincts yet that are gained through practice and experience, so it's hard.

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