3. [Advice Request][TW: Mild Verbal Abuse] Please, I need help. My Ndad is verbally...

[Advice Request][TW: Mild Verbal Abuse] Please, I need help. My Ndad is verbally abusing my boyfriend of 3 years.

You are welcome and apologies for suggesting the commitment thing. Just assumed you guys were in your twenties with you saying your parents were paying for you to live by yourself.

I am not an immigration lawyer/expert but citizenship is not as easily reversible as residency permits. Especially if you give up/relinquish/denounce your citizenship of the country where you originally came from once you take up US citizenship. Relinquishing of citizenship is usually done through contacting the embassy of the country whose citizenship you are renouncing. Do an internet search to find out the procedures regarding your country of origin. If you are someone who is at risk of being forcibly removed from the US by your parents depending on their plans for you then this is one way to deny them that power over your future.

There is something in the UN international rules about not leaving a person stateless (something to do with protecting human rights) - US is likely a signatory to this but not a 100% sure so check this out with an immigration lawyer. In other words, if you were to relinquish/denounce your original nationality once you took up US citizenship, you would in effect become a stateless person if your later stripped of your US citizenship. Again check this with an immigration lawyer to be sure and also ask about whether it is possible for you to prepare for and become a US citizen in a different city but within the same state from the one where you live. It might make it easier for you to get your citizenship without your N dad knowing you got your citizenship. Unless the names and pictures of everyone who gets US citizenship are all over the local media as a matter of policy, how would your N Dad know about you getting citizenship, unless you told your family members?

Explanation of what dual nationality entails: http://travel.state.gov/content/travel/english/legal-considerations/us-citizenship-laws-policies/citizenship-and-dual-nationality/dual-nationality.html

It is worth paying for an hour's consultation fee with a specialist immigration lawyer, to talk through all the issues you are facing, regarding your residency papers and your concerns about getting citizenship. Find out your rights and exactly what you can legally do to get your preferred outcome. If you search for "State and Local Bar Associations", you should be able to use the click map to find lawyers who specialise in immigration where you are. Once you have identified the immigration lawyer you are going to see, check if you can pay in cash to avoid your parents finding out, since they pay your bills.

Hope all goes well and don't give up. Your N Dad is not all powerful. There is a limit to his power if you are one step ahead of him and are not sharing the steps you are taking to free yourself from his control. Even if you can't currently work, find out if you can volunteer using your student status, to help you build up an employment history to gain much needed experience. Find something you can do without your parents/family knowing about it, for a few hours a week, so it seems you are just going about your student life.

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