Wow. I’m trying to be respectful, but I’m also having a hard time that a good foster family would be asking these questions.

She’s 4. And a part of your family. You chose this life and even chose her. Under no circumstances do you go do things as a family and exclude her because as a 4 year old she doesn’t like something.

And yes, when you are a parent (however that occurs) there are aspects of your life you change. Our weekends are now kids activities and family style chain restaurants, not hanging out at bars and fancy dinners. Camping, since that’s the one thing you keep mentioning, is a perfect family activity. So go. And go again. And go again. She’s 4. Maybe it’s not something she wants to do as a teenager, and you make the decision at that point on if she can stay home alone or not, but at 4, 8, even 12 she goes where you go. You are the parent and family when she is in your home.