AITA - Saying bad things about my brother?

I didn't take my issues to David for him to try and fix things, I took them to David to vent. David would be very aggressive and yes, he would say violent things about Karl and regrettably I would agree as this was the only form of validation I could get from David.

However, Terry told me that Fred would also send messages inviting violence towards me that Karl would agree with. So it wasn't all one sided. If ESH I'd have to point out that the only difference in our actions was that Karl invaded my privacy and used it to turn others against me, whereas my private messages stayed between myself and David - or so I thought.

The messages I sent to David were generally just frustrations about someone Karl had said or done, generally I was trying to understand the deeper issue and see if David could offer any insight. When David jumped to joking about violence I'd just agree and leave the conversation there as to not offend David.

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