NAH, sorry you miscarried. But you need to understand just as much as you’re hurting, he loss those kids too. Now he had to deal with everything, cooking, taking care of this kids and stressing out about the money situation. You need to get help because right now it sounds like you’re neglecting your responsibilities as a parent to your other kids. Although what your husband is doing is extremely wrong. But people act so much differently under stress and sadness. Does it make it right to berate someone, no. You two need to work together. First one of you need to go back to work. Secondly you need therapy and couple counseling. Best of luck.