AITA for asking my boyfriend to get a vasectomy if he insists on me getting an abortion?

NTA - or if there’s a, “he’s a huge fucking asshole and you are being a bit of one too” I would vote that.

  1. Your body, your right. You can and should keep it if that’s what you want to do. He’s a real asshole for trying to manipulate your decision.

  2. Whether he wanted the kid or not, if it comes he needs to man up an be a father to the child. He’s obviously a massive asshole to threaten not being involved in a child’s life that has no control.

  3. The vasectomy is by far and wide way less of a deal than an abortion. An abortion can potentially fuck someone up emotionally for a really long time. There’s real medical consequences for some people. A vasectomy is a 15 minute out patient procedure that is commonly reversible; and only requires a little bit of ice for a few days.

You are kind of an asshole for tying the two together; it seems logical that you don’t want to be in this situation again and it seems that it’s a reasonable request when put in the light of avoiding issues in the future. Saying get the vasectomy or I won’t get an abortion is convoluting the problems and if anything disregarding the importance of your decision,”.

Frankly, I think you are right to keep the kid and demand a vasectomy...

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