AITA for asking my GF to show some decency when playing online

Im a girl gamer. Majority of the people I online game with are guys. Very few girls and most don't even use mics. If men knew I was a girl, they'd censor themselves and it wouldn't be fun. I could never keep a consistent team if i pretended i was a teen boy. Always playing with randoms and that doesn't make for an enjoying game. When I let the other guys know I am a girl but also a human and know how to communicate they relaxed and were themselves around me. Sometimes they took it too far. Most of the time I wasn't even the one who had to call them out on it. The other boys who respected me and were just trying to have a good time like I did told em off. I have real life girl friends i play video games with without boys and we are just as vulgar. It's humor. Women aren't just sitting around talking about knitting and baking. We say some pretty gross out stuff too. I guarantee most of the guys she plays with doesn't even view her sexually and more like one of the guys. That's what happens when you respect someone and don't put them in a box. The ones that do want to fuck her she knows and honestly doesn't care. As it happens irl and ig all the time. It's not a new part of her life. That's your girlfriend and she's being herself. If you can't handle that it's fine. It just means you aren't compatible. I've had guy gamer friends tell me they thought they wanted a gamer chick but couldn't handle the type of humor or time we spent playing. That's fine. You are allowed to have your preferences. You aren't allowed to get physically threatening and loud at her weather or not she had an idea to your feelings on the matter. YTA for how you expressed your feelings. You aren't the asshole for having those feelings. We've all had bad or inappropriate feelings but how we deal with them shows our character. You don't sound like you're ready for a serious relationship with another gamer or not, based on how you deal with your feelings. I think you need to explore within yourself why you reacted this way and how to become a better person from it.

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