That seems to be an emotionally reasoned and neurotic way to analyze the situation. Indian girlfriend in college hid our relationship from her parents for 4 years (am white). I never took it personally because it had nothing to do with me. She always told me that we’d tell them once we graduated and got engaged... until she had a sobbing breakdown and broke up with me because “they’d never accept you” a couple weeks before graduation. Good times. If saying “yup we’ve never sexed” is all it took to make that work, I would have sworn up and down to be as pure as a fresh mountain snow. Getting so wrapped up in your emotions that you make decisions that go against your interests never made sense to me. Still doesn’t.