AITA for asking my wife to take care of our newborn during the night hours while she is on maternity leave?

I’m going with soft YTA. Now, I have a newborn and do take care of all nighttime feedings myself while I am on maternity leave, but 1) I actually like doing it because I prefer breastfeeding (would probably have to get up to pump anyways), 2) We worked out that plan TOGETHER and will work out a new one as soon as I go back to my job, and 3) We have a super easy baby who most nights only wakes up once (twice at the most) so I don’t feel I am losing a tremendous amount of sleep. We also don’t believe in the “50-50 split” “your turn to change a diaper” nonsense - it’s just not a big deal to either of us and we just go with the flow day to day.

Every family and every baby is different, but the important thing here is to communicate and figure out what works best TOGETHER, while acknowledging that BOTH of you have to work really hard during this time and you both need sleep. That’s why the soft YTA judgment… it sounds like you didn’t have an open discussion or acknowledge how hard she has to work during the day with a newborn - it absolutely is exhausting (worth it, but exhausting).

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