Your dad is the asshole.

I recently ended a friendship with a girl named Annabelle. I have been very clear with friends that I don’t want them hooking me up on a blind date, telling people about my sex life, or mentioning I’m a lesbian.

I don’t go around introducing people as my straight friends. I don’t hook people up on blind dates. I don’t bring people to parties with the intention of hooking them up with people. I think it’s really rude when people do that, I feel blindsided, and it doesn’t make me wanna hang out with them anymore.

I think that what your dad did crossed a whole bunch of lines, especially because your family might have had a bad reaction to the news. Your father threatened valuable relationships because he felt he knew better than to your dad about your sexuality. That’s unfair and really asshole behavior.

Annabel, a couple weeks ago, told a coworker of mine that I am a lesbian. This coworker is very Christian and while we weren’t buddy buddy, we had a pretty good working chemistry. We would get lunch together sometimes or joke around or cover shifts for each other. Now Mary doesn’t want anything to do with me, she makes excuses not to get lunch and says she can’t cover shifts for me anymore.

On top of that, during the same conversation where it came out, she told a mutual friend that I’m really into sporty brunettes and I would probably love to go out with her, Christina, and she should ask me out. She informs me that I should be expecting a call from Christina and that she hopes it works out, because we would be such a cute couple.

So not only do I have my super Christian coworker not talking to me, I now have to turn down Christina because I don’t find her attractive and I think she’s boring as hell romantically. I’ve listen to Christina talk about her relationships and it’s the most bumbling vanilla shit I’ve ever heard in my life and I don’t want to date her. She’s a good friend, terrible girlfriend. So not only do I have my super Christian coworker not talking to me, I now have to turn down Christina because I don’t find her attractive and I think she’s boring as hell romantically. I’ve listen to Christina talk about her relationships and it’s the most bumbling vanilla shit I’ve ever heard in my life and I don’t want to date her. She’s a good friend, terrible girlfriend.

And now I’ve lost a friend of six years because I told her that she crossed the line went to many times and I was done having her destroy my social life because she wanted to feel useful.

I suggest you put your dad on an information diet, and explain to him that he broke your trust.