AITA for being upset that my boyfriend is happy while I am depressed?

NAH, wow this hits home and makes me feel like I'm the asshole..over the last few years I steadily worked myself out of depression towards a better life, just because I wanted to become a person that is happy, contend, not dependent on other people and able to enjoy life to the fullest..for that I've medicated, meditated, spoke to therapists, moved places, changed Jobs and started talking to my family more often... The worst thing I've done to get there is breaking up..not once, but twice..last time just a week ago. Not because there's no love left, but because I felt like the way of living and the mindset they're in was taking me back into old patterns of thinking and feeling and I'm horrified of loosing the progress I made by stagnation. They both were great women, mostly loving and caring, but strongly bound by restrictions they put on their own ways if thinking and feeling and even though I always tried to explain were I was coming from and were I was going, I never felt that I had the energy or right and obligation to change somebody elses life to something that was more fitting for me..so I moved in with my own life while still trying to show them that I cared for them..worked for one who's slowly building herself a better life..and I really hope it will for the other, too.

What I want to say is, you might have a chance of saving things if you work on your depression..but that's not sure, what's sure is that it's not his job to help your depression, especially if he's struggeling himself. Actually it's healthy for him to distance himself if you're not tackeling your problems. Start getting help, find out what you can do to pull yourself out of the hole and try to be a happier person by yourself, happiness attracts happy people. It's hard work and takes years to get through, but if you don't try to find out what works for you, you'll end up as a bitter and sad Person and it won't be anybody elses fault than yours. (Sorry for being so direct)

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