You are NOT the asshole.
Recently, in Sydney Australia, a head-on car crash occurred. The driver was a young girl on her learner's and the crash was no fault of her own. In her passenger seat was her brother, 25. He was recently married to a young, beautiful woman (23) a few months before. They had unborn twins and she was heavily pregnant.
The driver of the other car was unlicensed and drink-driving. The girl, the man's wife and both her unborn children were instantly killed. The male passenger lost EVERYTHING. The unlicensed driver who caused the crash... he survived.
That man recently woke up from coma to national news attention... and he screamed.
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/dad-wakes-up-screaming-coma-13382891