AITA for calling my friend a bad parent for enabling her husband?

ESH, i think you could have approached your friend with better empathy. “why do you let him get away with that behavior” puts her immediately in a defensive position. you could’ve just said “i feel concerned with some of the behavior i see from rob and wanted to ask how you were feeling about it” seems... just nicer

she obviously feels powerless, which is sad. i hope she figures it out.

also, parenting is really fucking hard. there is no guidebook and often no one tells us how to do what’s best. it’s difficult to navigate when kids are young. she may not know how to handle it, and tries her best but is undermined by him. calling her a bad parent might just contribute to her feeling shameful, powerless, and low, rather than empowered to advocate.

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