AITA for calling out my girlfriend's hypocrisy?

YTA, doing what she wants in bed IS feminist. Full stop. And bypassing that we can't control our kinks, there is absolutely nothing wrong with role playing. It's a game! It's fun!

And by the way, many women have submissive fantasties in part *because* of the world we live in. We're raised to understand that men are stronger, more physically powerful, and could hurt us if they wanted to. We're raised - sometimes overtly but definitely subliminally by media - to see our bodies and beauty as the most important thing. We're raised to see that our grandparents - sometimes parents - were in very unequal relationships where the man kind of 'owned' the women. We're told that we shouldn't want that, but we still see it everywhere. Most modern women have abandoned that notion, but it's still a part of how our brains formed. Similar to men who enjoy playing that more powerful, dominant role! Playing some of these things out in a safe and consensual way is healthy. Or if you don't subscribe to any of that, whatever, who cares, she likes it and thinks it's hot. That does NOT make her any less of a feminist.

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