My grandma is one of these women. SAHM who left an abusive husband and refused to marry my grandpa because she was scared of how he would change after marriage like her ex (great guy then was beating her before the ink on their marriage certificate was dry). He died and she couldn't claim survivors benefits from from military so she had nothing. She worked under the table as a landlord, her pay was a few hundred for bills and an apartment she didn't didn't to pay rent for, nothing was in writing so even though the owners promised it was her unit until she died, they sold and kicked her out.

Nowdays she rents. Her roommate got dementia and had to be put in a home, so she's living on her own. Her rent is 1100 a month, her ssi is 180$ and her disability is 800$. Out of all my family I'm the only one who helps her. All my cousins are trash and my sperm donor (her only living son) is too busy playing house with his wife and new kid, to help even buy his mother groceries. Right now she has an eviction notice that we (my mother, my fiancé and myself) are trying to find away to deal with then figure out how to get the money together to move her cross country to live with my family. Woman spent her whole life caring for others. Raised her kids, raised her grand kids- when her youngest son (my sperm donor) became became fuck up dumping me on her, and when her oldest son died she helped raise his kids. Woman would give you the shirt off her back but her family can't be bothered to make sure she has a roof over her head and can eat.

I'm a SAHM until my kid reaches school age (my paycheck would literally just be enough for child care so it made more sense to stay at home with my son then go back to work when he starts school.) So I'm limited in what I can do. Crossing my fingers I can get her here before Christmas though I haven't figured out how yet.

She's not even thay bad off compared to some of her elderly friends (most of which have died) as at least she can rely on myself and my mother to at least try to help.