ngl, it sounds like your wife might not feel secure in the relationship. if she thinks that you're not trustworthy, in any capacity according to your replies, then you should reassure her that you love her and wouldn't do anything to hurt her or your relationship. if the issue is that she's just controlling, then you should set up some boundaries with her. acknowledge her feelings, let her know that wasn't your intention, and let her know that your life can't be planned out to a perfect itinerary. a lot this sounds very high school to me, which makes sense since this is your first relationship. let her know that mistakes happen, like not going fishing as planned due to circumstances beyond your control, and that moving forward, you will try your best to let her know if plans change. if this is such an issue to her, then consider sharing your location with her using apple's location feature or life360. that said, you have the right to privacy. NTA