AITA for getting married a few weeks before my friend and not telling anyone until afterwards?

We didn't "rush" to get married. At all. We had been waiting for the perfect scenario to come up for a year, and it did. To have passed it up would mean waiting at least another year. I completely understand the accusations from people "reading between the lines" that I did this deliberately to take it away from her, but I just didn't and all you'll have is my word.

Also, I didn't even know this was that important to her, it was more of a fact that had been mentioned several times, she never said anything along the lines of "it's really important to me".

In general, I would never choose to do things that had any risk of making my friends unhappy, however not taking this rare opportunity would have made me and my husband unhappy - does that count for nothing? I appreciate I was wrong and I have apologised for that, but I don't think it makes me an asshole for doing it in the first place.

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