AITA for giving my daughter more money than my son after a lottery win because of different circumstances?

YTA

Your daughter has a BS/MS, meaning she has the financial means to pay off all of her debt. Even her medical debt, which I’m not saying isn’t necessary but it definitely isn’t an emergency life/death procedure. You have 25k+25k+47k=97k to split between both your children. You can give both 48.5k and your daughter could easily pay for the entire surgery and pay off a bit of her school debt.

You have so much sympathy for your daughter going into school debt but the education benefits her own projected earnings and career at the end of the day! Ofc she is going to go for her master’s degree.

You sound bitter that your son dropped out of school. Maybe he wasn’t smart enough or made the wrong choices as a teen. You’re punishing him for that more than a decade later? If anything, I think you should be giving your son more money, as his projected earnings are significantly less than his sister.

You can even set up some sort of slow payout so he doesn’t waste it all at once or offer to finance part of a house for your son and his family, but you’re choosing not to because let’s face it. You don’t love your son as much.

You let your daughter use the money she saved to spend on a vacation (IN ADDITION to the 25k), but got forbid your son do the same with some extra money.

The 20k going to your grandchildren have nothing to do with your son. It’s not money going to him, it’s for another family member of yours.

I think you need to spend some time on introspection, and how you want your relationship with your kids to look moving forward. Because your biases might be causing you to treat your son different from your daughter in other situations too.

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